Disruptions in your Baby's Routine during the Holidays
The centre of many holiday celebrations is giving and receiving gifts, especially for children. Children fantasize about it, and most hope to receive lots of big, expensive gifts. Parents, for their part, worry that the mid-winter holidays will spoil their children or make them greedy. Most parents will probably have to provide a healthy reality check, providing some guidance for what are more reasonable dreams.
But what about your child’s natural desire to receive lots of gifts? Does this promote greed? As long as your family also highlights the true meaning of the holidays, such as giving to others and celebrating cherished rituals together, you do not need to worry too much about your child’s materialistic desires.
Here are some ways you can use Comfort, Play & Teach: A Positive Approach to ParentingTM to set the tone for raising kind and caring children, regardless of how many gifts they ask for or receive.
Nurturing close relationships within families and among friends is the core of healthy social and emotional development for young children. Parents can set the tone for the holidays by emphasizing their true meaning – that of giving to others. The very young child, who has been at the receiving end of love, comfort, and attention to his needs from the earliest days, will replicate giving to others naturally and spontaneously. An infant as young as nine months will lovingly offer a parent his pre-chewed food in the spirit of sharing. A toddler as young as eighteen months will either hug or offer up a cherished stuffed toy to comfort another person who is crying. A child’s capacity for empathy and concern is developed through the consistent and sensitive responsiveness shown them throughout the early years. When you focus on the “giving” part of the holidays, this teaches children to care for others and to reach out to people who are less fortunate.
It is through the power of play that a child explores and makes discoveries about things and people in his world. Consider how your family’s own traditions can be emphasized during the holidays. When children are little, it is a prime time to start family traditions that will last a lifetime. This helps children feel grounded and connected to the people who care for them.
Here are some ways that family values can be celebrated through play:
Nothing is too insignificant to delight a young child. And many times it is the little things that they will remember the most.
Young children need to learn how to communicate, interact with others, solve problems and express thoughts and feelings. The holiday season presents a wonderful opportunity for children to learn about themselves in the context of family and the community around them. Take this time to model for children how to think about others and to reach out to people who are less fortunate:
Spending time with your children in these ways will help to outweigh the material aspects of the holidays, and your actions will build fond memories and positive values that will stay with them for a lifetime.